British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy
Warning Signs of Counter-Transference
31 jul. 2021
Signs of countertransference in therapy can include a variety of behaviors, including excessive self-disclosure on the part of the therapist or an inappropriate interest in irrelevant details from the life of the person in treatment.
What are signs of countertransference ? They are extremely critical of you . They sit too close to you for your comfort. They express intense feelings about you , your problems, and your choices. They take on a parental role with you . They want to meet outside of therapy.
In using countertransference this way, the therapist must consider multiple sources of his or her feelings. Some feelings, positive or negative, may be evoked by the patient. These are particularly helpful ones to notice, especially when the cause is not immediately obvious, as in the example just given.
In a therapy context, transference refers to redirection of a patient’s feelings for a significant person to the therapist. Countertransference is defined as redirection of a therapist’s feelings toward a patient, or more generally, as a therapist’s emotional entanglement with a patient.
In psychoanalytic theory, counter-transference occurs when the therapist begins to project his own unresolved conflicts onto the client. Positive : the therapist is over-supportive, trying too hard to befriend his client, disclosing too much (can damage the therapeutic relationship)
Step 1: Increase your own awareness of when it is occurring Ensure you are aware of own countertransference . Attend to client transference patterns from the start. Notice resistance to coaching. Pick up on cues that may be defences. Follow anxieties. Spot feelings and wishes beneath those anxieties.
For starters, it does happen from time to time ― but only when absolutely necessary. Most therapists agree that Googling a patient before an appointment is discouraged and could constitute an ethical violation, but safety concerns can lead some to take pre-emptive measures.
work through dilemmas in practice that involve countertransference , there are several ethical issues to be considered: As noted in the CASW Guidelines for Ethical Practice (2005) “social workers avoid conflicts of interest that interfere with the exercise of professional discretion and impartial judgment.
One study found that 72 percent of therapists have cried in session, suggesting that tears are the norm rather than the exception. Sometimes, their tears were in response to sad situations like the one my client found himself in; sometimes, they cried because they felt touched by something their client shared.
Your Therapist Can Experience Transference , Too Frequently spoken about in reference to the therapeutic relationship, the classic example of sexual transference is falling in love with one’s therapist . However, you might also transfer feelings such as rage, anger, distrust, or dependence.
Transference occurs when a person redirects some of their feelings or desires for another person to an entirely different person. One example of transference is when you observe characteristics of your father in a new boss. You attribute fatherly feelings to this new boss. They can be good or bad feelings.
Transference (noun): the redirection of feelings about a specific person onto someone else (in therapy, this refers to a client’s projection of their feelings about someone else onto their therapist). Countertransference (noun): the redirection of a therapist’s feelings toward the client.
Many therapists take a moderate position, offering a pat on the back or an occasional hug if the client asks for it or if a session is particularly grueling. My research suggests that touch in this setting is seldom a simple social gesture.
If you feel like you have fallen in love with your therapist , you are not alone. Therapy is an intimate process, and it is actually more common than you may realize to develop romantic feelings for your therapist .
When the psychologist mirrors , he or she is giving attention, recognition, and acknowledgement of the person. If the patient has a deep need to feel special, than the therapist’s interest in understanding, and the provision of undivided attention, is reparative.
Experts say experiencing some kind of attraction toward your counselor is not atypical — and chances are, your therapist has dealt with something similar before. Recognizing your feelings and working through them with your therapist may actually help you grow.