British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy
This is the Therapy Talk: 8 Strategies for Persuading Your Partner to Attend Couples Counseling
Just because your husband is unwilling to participate in marital therapy does not imply that you must give up on your marriage as well.It is totally acceptable to travel by oneself.Even if you may not be able to alter your partner, you can always change your own personality.It is possible that improving yourself and learning how to be a better wife or husband may encourage your partner to do the same.
Inform your spouse of the type of counselor you are looking for, that you have done some research (if you have), and that you would like them to attend at least one session, if not more, to allow the counselor to hear both of their points of view. It is critical for a counselor to hear the issues and experiences of BOTH couples, rather than just one, in order to be effective.
You can, on the other hand, make an effort to comprehend your spouse’s anxieties or concerns about marital therapy and then work to address those fears or concerns in a win-win manner in your answer to them. Most of the time, it is not a lack of love or concern that causes someone to reject marital therapy.
Inform your partner that he or she, as well as your marriage or relationship, are really important to you and that there are some/many things that are going well. However, there are certain issues that are bugging you that you would like to address so that you, as well as your partner, can be happier and more satisfied in the marriage/relationship in the future.