7 Reasons Why Marriage Counseling Fails a Lot of the Time (and What to Do About It)
It is impossible for marriage therapy to be effective when the two parties have opposing goals. In the case of a couple where one partner is more committed to doing the necessary work than the other, counseling will not be effective. It will also not work if any of the partners is not entirely honest with the other partners.
An important factor contributing to their dissatisfaction is that marriage counseling assumes that both partners possess self-regulation skills—the ability to maintain self-worth while regulating feelings of guilt, shame, and a sense of inadequacy without feeling entitled to place blame on one another.In our era of entitlement, it appears that fewer and fewer couples are able or willing to do so.
When does couples counseling fail to deliver results? As-if and ″life-support″ couples therapy are two approaches that general practitioner therapists are entirely comfortable with. The term ″therapeutic″ interventions may refer to several questionable procedures.
If you live with a person who is resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive, it is possible that you have attempted marriage therapy, which only made things worse in your household. Couples that come to our boot camps for persistent resentment, hostility, or emotional abuse have often seen an average of three marriage counselors before they arrive at our facility.
One of the primary reasons for their dissatisfaction is that marital therapy assumes that both partners possess self-regulation skills – the capacity to maintain self-worth while regulating feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy without feeling entitled to place blame on one another.